In anonymity, we are free to be ourselves and to convey and receive a message of hope with the suffering addict, no matter when, where, or who it may be.
Guiding Principles, Twelfth Tradition, Closing Reflection
We live in the world where - consciously and unconsciously - we adjust the way we speak and behave from time to time depending on the circumstances. We avoid certain bad words when talking to grandma or the boss, for example. We also greet each other in different ways. A handshake, a bow, or a fist bump may be called for, depending on the situation, or perhaps a cheek-to-cheek kiss—one, two, or three. The thing is, people—even non-addicts—adjust as a sign of respect or solidarity.
But as with so many other traits, drug addicts can take this normal tendency to extremes. In active addiction, we honed our ability to “read” situations and leverage that skill to get what we needed. Instead of being flexible to connect with others, we became cunning manipulators trying to achieve their own ends.
Recovery helps us restore this ability to the right proportions. Working through the Steps helps us understand who we are and then supports our efforts to be and do our best. What a relief! Today we can be more secure in our personalities and look less like chameleons. Practicing the spiritual principle of anonymity does not mean that we lose our individuality. In fact, the very uniqueness of Narcotics Anonymous rests, in part, on “the raw vitality that flows from the diverse personalities of our members,” as stated in It Works: How and Why.
By being our weird, wonderful selves, we allow a wider range of addicts to connect with the message and believe that NA can work for them too. Collectively and individually, we are NA's best asset. Actually, we are the NA. When we share from the heart, others connect. Being ourselves to the best of our ability enables others to do the same. There is a place for all of us in NA. We all fit in when we focus on delivering and receiving the message of hope.
I will clearly share my experience today, knowing that honesty and authenticity are far more important than something glossy or pretentious. NA needs me to be myself – no more, no less. Turns out I need this too.
