Honesty starts with not lying, but it doesn't end there.
The Principles that guide us, 10th Tradition, Initial Problematization
If we're lucky, we get to practice a little "honesty at the till" early in our recovery. When a cashier gives us extra change, it's tempting to quietly pocket it, but instead we do the right thing. We refund money rather than lie in advance. Damn, that's a nice feeling. We get a thumbs up from the employee and have some honest experience to share at the next gathering. We enjoy the positive attention and, even better, we feel proud of ourselves.
This is a very good start to practicing honesty, but it doesn't end there. The Steps offer us some important guidance as we dust off our past and examine our present state of mind and behavior. Personal inventories – long-term as well as regular check-ins – help us develop the habit of honest self-evaluation. We list our strengths and responsibilities, refining our lists by consulting a supporter and a Higher Power. Knowing - really knowing - ourselves is a critical element of recovery.
Our relationships—with ourselves, others, and our lives—are enriched by our willingness to be honest. When we're on track with honesty, we tend to give in a bit more and have fewer corrections to make. Having a clear picture of our character, motivations and emotional life means we are less defensive and more introspective. It turns out that by accessing our emotions it's easier to connect with others. We build deep and lasting relationships with others who are also emotionally available.
When we understand ourselves and our lives, it is easier to respond to the world around us in a way that is consistent with our values. For some of us, living consciously means finding our voice and becoming champions of the causes that are important to us. We can have strong opinions on difficult issues and be careful not to complicate the NA message. Clarity comes from honestly reflecting on our experience and sharing how living spiritually keeps us grounded and growing. Experience offers us a vision of hope.
Being myself is my best asset in getting the message across. I will take time for some honest self-criticism today.
