Doing the right thing when no one is looking is a form of service to what we believe. Some of us call it principles – the Sixth Step calls it character. Whatever you call it, it is discipline and is the basis for developing our maturity.
Living Purely, Chapter 6, “Commitment”
Integrity. Character. Discipline. Maturity. We did not often use these words for ourselves when we were in use, except perhaps to note the lack of them.
While many NA members avoid the limelight altogether, there are just as many of us who love the limelight or who, at the very least, take services to be recognized and praised. During our recovery, we will have ample opportunity to analyze the motivations behind our choices. Practically speaking, we could just admit that our active addiction created many regrets. We were ashamed of many of our actions and inactions. In recovery, we have the opportunity to do things—in SE, in our work, and in our family—because those things need to be done. Sticking to that sense of practicality and ethics in service—and not “Look at me!” that attracts attention- is a sign of maturity and integrity. It also shows character and discipline. All these.
And, of course, if we have a service that we do consistently, responsibly, and perhaps with our own creative touch, our efforts may garner some positive attention. Accepting the gratitude of others is also a sign of maturity.
We don't need to plan our service just to make sure no one is looking. That would be too much anonymity. We don't need to hide our talents or abilities in order to do the right thing. We embrace our abilities so we can stay clean and help others do the same.
Today I decide to let my contribution to the world speak for itself. If they only talk to me, so be it. If others notice and express their appreciation, I will be kind.
