To understand how we find balance in recovery, let's imagine we have a scale and a handful of sand in our hands. The goal is to have the same amount of sand on both sides of the scale to balance the weight.
We do something like this in recovery. The base is our clean time and the Twelve Steps and on top we add work, home responsibilities, friends, supporters, relationships, gatherings and services, trying to find a balance. In our first attempt we may see that we do not put enough weight on our personal life. For example, maybe we spend a lot of time on services, which results in a problem at work or with our family. But if we try to correct this situation by leaving all the services we have in the NA, the scales will tip again, but on the other side.
We can ask for help from other members who have managed to find balance in their own lives. It's easy to tell who they are. They appear to be calm, composed, self-confident people. They will recognize our difficulty and be willing to share with us how they managed to take their time by trying small changes at a time until they achieved a balance in their recovery.
